The divine feminine is re-awakening all over the globe. Women are being shaken to awaken to their true path (whatever that may be), in a world where we have been masculinised in order to be and work like men do (and still not reap the traditional benefits of mere equality). We are currently (and have been for some time) experiencing a global remembrance, often sparked by curiosity or more emotionally triggering experiences. Of course some have been on this path for a long time. In fact, it never left. However, a great benefit of the digital age is the opportunity to connect in virtual temple spaces, share messages through video and photo sharing. The bond between women has the potential to be simply unbreakable. In an ancestral sense, it truly is unbreakable. This might not be obvious information to you, in a society where women have been conditioned to compete for the attention of men or against each other. We might simply recognise in what ways women usually come together in this modern world: we often carry around the stigma of going to the bathroom together, or you might begin to witness the women in your family preparing meals together. Or even how, when a female colleague walks into the meeting room, or onto public transport at night, you feel instantly relaxed. Yes sisters, that is that sacred bond. Here are some heart shares of what I encountered and learned in my personal journey embracing other women, and my own, inner woman.

The first time I experienced a “women’s circle”, was about four years ago. How mystic, I thought. At a beautiful venue in London, where like-minded individuals shared space, healing, music and good vibes. We lit some candles, shared a song and were read some poetry. We held each other by our hands, danced, laughed and shared plenty. I only experienced this circle two or three times, as our busy schedules quickly demanded our rational attention. This disconnection with the busy city and not being in circle with these sisters did not sit comfortably with me. It had nothing to do with the sisters who grew apart, but it was my inner knowing of how right it felt to connect with women in a deep and profound way. I wanted more. Fast forward to years later. I am part of a global sisterhood. And I have never felt better about and in myself.

The Strength of Being Vulnerable

You might have heard or experienced that by getting out of your personal comfort zone, you will experience emotional growth. And you might also have heard of the disillusion that vulnerability is “weak”, and belongs to the “always victimised and weaker gender”. I invite you to see past this white noise coming from outside, distracting you from allowing yourself to really feel into the depth of your emotions. Your emotions, and the messages they carry, are a gift. You are truly your greatest healer. Your emotions are valid, and speak on a more, grander and cosmic level, to all. By sharing your inner workings, you are showing yourself the respect you deserve. You might be breaking habitual patterns in which you were shut down, either by your inner critic or by others. The medicine that comes from you, is available at all times. It is simply about recognising that you hold the greatest power within yourself – it is not somewhere “out there”, with someone else. It is here now, inside of you.

The Beauty of Being Witnessed

Sharing your sacred, inner essence self, and your emotional wounding in a circle of women is challenging. Again, there are no rules here and you truly serve the circle by honouring yourself first. If you do feel called to share a personal anecdote or emotion, you are stepping onto the path of self-healing. Asking for witnessing is a huge initiatory process in the journey to self-love. Where are you demanding to be seen, Beloved?

Learning How to Hold Space

What does it mean, to “hold space”? I invite you to take a breath. Sit with this stillness for a moment. You do not need to be a master of meditation. There is not a rational answer or explanation I can give you, but an invitation to try this for yourself. You will feel the energy in the room becoming concentrated with “space” which is for the person to be held, or witnessed, the same way you would do when you listen to someone intently, without interrupting that someone with an ego driven mind. Every heartfelt share, whether it be verbal through words or songs, or sacred silence, is valid. You might even feel the physical space become so concentrated with energy that you might experience something completely unexpected.

Know You Are Never Alone

In this society I feel it is often possible to get trapped in this belief of, “I am alone.” This is an illusion. It is also a concept I used to haunt myself with. I used to tell myself an old, out-dated story of being forever alone in this world. No one would ever love me, because, where are they? What had I done? Why am I here? If you resonate with these words, Beloved, I simply invite you to take a breath. Whether you consciously believe this or not, purposely connecting with people who you wish to see around you can be a major life-changer. Gathering with women, perhaps, was the greatest wake-up call I have ever received. That I never am alone, and never have been. I felt infinitely more connected to myself and other human beings, and from that awareness a bud of self-love bloomed into a thousand petaled lotus of unconditional love for myself.

Remembrance

Women have been brainwashed to “hate their bodies”, “exist to please men”, or complete against each other, are all forms of dishonouring the feminine. These are all distractions from our sacred, ancient remembrance. That intuitive knowing that every woman is your sister, and every man your brother lies dormant, eager to awake. When we begin to connect in deep sisterhood (and perhaps you already have) the simple practise of meeting, listening and sharing space is ritualistic, and may bring the kind balance into your life which you did not know you deeply desired.

Sacred Ceremony

This could be something from your cultural, ancestral roots, or initiating and valuing your sacred me-time. When I began connecting more with my feminine self (without knowing that this was what I was doing, that realisation came later), sacred “me-time” was the most profound action I could allow myself to experience. From consciously deciding to spend time by myself, my honouring self-practise began by lighting a candle, and treating my hair with coconut oil. “Treating”, sounds far too clinical, actually. Massaging, loving, caressing, would be more suitable terms to describe how I was taking care of my hair. This was only the beginning of many more self care practises I was about to discover. And so simple. By determining my sacred space, I enjoyed the quiet time I had (and continue to have) to myself and my temple body. Sacred “me-time” allows us to treat ourselves how we wish to be treated, and in even larger ceremonial practises, to dive deep into our subconscious selves.

Freedom

I am more free and have a choice of experiencing freedom in a completely new way. I speak my truth more authentically, choose my words carefully, and set boundaries, wether this be in personal relationships or work related. All in all, I am in closer alignment to my inner nature. This liberation of the “Self” also comes with a deep remembering and enjoyment of ancient traditions and wisdom of divine sisterhood, and whatever honouring practise these circles may have served throughout time.

Listening

Learning to listen in silence, or better: “shushing the ego”. Often when women come together we rejoice so much we want to share all of our happiness and issues we have in common. While this is beautiful, women circles allow you to step into the silence of the mind and your senses, and challenges you to provide your listening skills without judgement or comparison. Most of the time it is enough for people to hear that they have a sacred space to express themselves. There is no need here to give advice (unless specifically being asked to!). By listening to your elders, and youngsters, you will be able to practise your open ear, and open heart. We truly can learn from anyone. I love being guided by a new mentor, and those which I have, I hold very dear to my heart. Working with young people and children has taught me so much about the societal shift we are experiencing globally about gender roles, and nothing compares to feeling proud of your younger sisters expressing their independent authentic truth and (emotional) intelligence. And breaking stigmas and embracing each other with Love is so much fun than comparison or judgement!

Friends and a Support System for a Lifetime

I knew this even before I experienced it. And I haven’t even lived to the end of my days yet, so how would I know? Even if you decide it is time for your to move on, you may gain trusted, long-lasting and impactful friendships. Outside of the circle, your sisters and you might even have little to nothing in common. But what you do share is profound notion of respect for one-another: if you share personal opinions or not, like with anyone else, they may differ. However, I guarantee you their advice or opinion will be beneficial to your own. You will be surprised how willing you may find yourself to listen to others outside of a sisterhood, as well.

Forgiveness

Ask you self this: what would it feel like to let go of all your anger, all of the resentment you carry within yourself? All of those memories and emotions which make you sick – what if you had “tools”, the capability within yourself to make them go away? And at that, to have a group of loving women around you supporting you, listening to you, and by non-judgement allowing everything that needs to come to presence, unfold? Letting go of resentment, is huge, personal liberation. Emotional resentment, which we may often hold onto strongly against our mothers, or female friends who we have felt have wronged us, it is important to realise that they were acting to their best knowledge. That you and them are equally responsible for co-creating your reality. Whilst you align to your highest good, everything in your environment will adjust to the energy you are exuding from your energetic pores.

Unconditional Love

Learning what “Love” really means. I have been completely shaken by this one. I did not know what Love meant until I grew in these women’s circles like a seed being nurtured by my sister seeds, sharing the same homely soil. Love, to me, is the complete acceptance of myself and not seeing myself separate from others. It is not the conventionally portrayed version of “love” is, which may be misconstrued in the dogma of, by “doing this or that” you will receive “love” or some form of self-gratification. It is so much more. And the road to love might be particularly difficult for you. Frankly, I would be if surprised if it has not been (or is) a tumultuous journey. Perhaps you are not there yet. Know that that is okay. Know that it is okay to never need to know what this really means. I can invite you to separate yourself from the belief that love is something to be achieved: it just is. Disassociate yourself from the word, as Love is not literal. It is something to experienced, and in its raw-est form – it is you.

All these experiences teach us how and where we may still judge ourselves, and what barriers we have build within us hindering the complete love for ourselves and the world. A women`s circle does not need a name. In this point in time, it seems like it is not the norm for women to share, connect and love each other, as is our nature. Truth be told, women’s circles never left. Now they might have a name of “women’s circle”, to introduce a sacred space for women, apart from millennia of tyrannical supremacy, which is coming to an end as we “wake-up.” It is only an illusion: the idea that women have not always been there supporting you, raising you, nourishing you and loving you. Who have you come here to serve? By serving yourself to your highest good you are serving and healing everybody else at the same time. There is not more you need to do. There is nothing to “achieve”. We are more alike than we thought possible, and mirror an exquisite variety and uniqueness of gifts.